Streaming Device

What do you do

when you are alone

and the only thing you are feeling

is sadness?

38 thoughts on “Streaming Device

  1. I can struggle with this in the evenings, when I’m almost always alone. Turning to food or other unhealthy ways to comfort yourself isn’t a good path to go down. I do think that sometimes, like others have said, sadness and everything you are feeling need to be embraced. Sit with your feelings for a while and appreciate every one of them. Put on some music to soothe your soul, to allow you to experience what you’re going through in colour, and then ‘work it off’ a little; a change of scenery is good, some fresh air and nature (the benefits of being around nature, plants and animals can be huge!), a refreshing shower, an empowering walk or run, and a touch of comfort with a good book and cup of tea.xx

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  2. I think sometimes sadness is to be embraced. But when I’m done with it and ready to move on, the answer for me is music. Or music and baking! Or music and dogs! A swim! A walk! Cleaning out my closet.
    But sometimes sadness needs to be babied too. Kleenex, ice cream, a teary movie…

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  3. I agree, I think it’s important to acknowledge my feelings but also not to stew in them. Either relax into them or as you said, get outside and distract myself in a constructive way that fosters the other emotions we feel as human beings. Hugs, Brad

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    1. Better. You know how the mind and the heart are, they can get tired of one emotion and move on to another. I am enjoying the playfulness of being alive. Peace, Harlon

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  4. I can offer no suggestions, only empathy and prayers. My mind does best with distractions when it is in that state – blogging, reading, listening to science podcasts, playing with my Shih Tzu, cooking, dish-washing, even. Others suggest talking to God, while others take a walk outside. Still others suggest focusing IN and and letting it be, which has never worked well for me personally. I find consciously changing something – anything – helps.

    None of us cope exactly alike – and I have always found it annoying when people speak to me as if they had answers for me because something worked for them. Try what sounds best, switch to something else if it’s not helping. Or wallow, if that’s what you need to do.

    Just hold on to the reality that nothing lasts forever, feelings aren’t facts. and even total strangers care how you feel and hope you come out the other side feeling better.
    xx,
    mgh
    (Madelyn Griffith-Haynie – ADDandSoMuchMORE dot com)
    ADD Coach Training Field founder; ADD Coaching co-founder
    “It takes a village to transform a world!”

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  5. So many good answers here! in addition to most of the above, sometimes I cried. I had to remind myself to take deep, slow breaths in between sobs to keep my body working right. I also prayed and remembered that God loved me deeply and forever no matter what. And then there was my dog, reflecting that unconditional love. I don’t remember if you have a dog, but if you don’t maybe you could take a friend’s dog for a walk or something. Music and movies have also helped and moderate exercise. I wish I could give you a real hug, but I’m imagining hugging you and also asking angels to come and hug you, too, so consider yourself hugged!

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    1. I agree, natural brings calmness, serenity and keep help me feel-centred. I think my sadness stems a lot from the long winter, spring is a while off but to be outdoors in milder weather with signs of life – sigh! 🙂 Harlon

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  6. Harlon,
    I can only assume you asked this as an invitation to explore the idea….

    and I can only respond from my knowledge as a fellow patient.

    My response is not per se up-lifting but is in the sense that as one patient to another, our experiences being unique, we do share parallels that only we can recognize.

    I have a chronic pain condition that has left me alone- both because my journey includes learning things about human nature that are devastating and too, not forgotten. For example I now know that compassion is a rare commodity (lip service to it, so often done in ignorance, only pulls us further from the light), Knowledge is transformative (and nowhere is it written that that equates the positive).
    And too, I have chosen to be alone, as in no partner, I would no more invite someone on this trip with me than I would knowingly invite someone to share the experience of a train wreck.

    The people in my life now are my care providers and although I am grateful for their help, these individuals are not necessary kind nor my friends. They are relationships born of necessity and often a professional or business transaction. The business of being chronically ill.

    The friends and family who have remained with me through the course of this I rarely see anymore, my health doesn’t afford (literally and figuratively) a lot of outings. These visits are often surreal as these individuals interact with me from two vistas- the person I used to be and secondly, with no way of being able to relate to the extreme difficulty I’m experiencing (usually silently) simply trying to remain mentally present. My body and mind constantly betray me.

    I do take solace in a few things though…
    1. that we, you and I, are helping the medical profession learn about our conditions through their experiences with us, and that those who come after us will hopefully benefit from that knowledge.
    2. I also, like you, am sharing my experience with illness, like we are doing right here and now, with other chronically ill people. through blessed technology, and in our sharing, I hope that I, in some measure, bring others a sense of connectedness, like you have done with me, here, now. It may not sound “pretty” to others but my situation is not and that’s simply the way it is. Other chronically sick people get it.
    3. I have a dog, and she is my very best companion…it is hard to feel sad when she’s nuzzling me, even if I’m in tears.
    4. And finally, I am learning to be my own best friend…allowing myself to be, with what is, learning to wait out the rough batches, like sadness. I cry most every day…I’m in pain but also I have lost who I was before I got sick and at 10 years and counting of a challenging, disabling and deteriorating illness I am still learning who it is that I have become, am becoming 9like we all are) And, don’t we know, like so many other things in life, compassion begins within ourselves, a habit that needs to be practiced, regularly.
    Like here, with you.

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  7. Many hugs to you!
    I had not felt alone for quite some time, as long as there are trees, and birds, and flowers, and books, and the creeks flow around rocks, and the wind gets tangled in the trees and prairie grasses, and the sun sets the skies ablaze, the buds unfold, we are not alone. I almost envy your solitude sometimes, you know. 🙂 With homeschooled kids, I crave to be alone from everyone and everything.
    May you find beauty in your solitude as it is a precious gift as well, which we only appreciate when we lose it. ❤

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  8. Harlon, I agree with Love it Now & Brad. It’s a little scary to do, at first. But, when we allow ourselves to consciously sit with an energy, with the intention of actually feeling it deeply, we come to realise it is just an energy and can’t hurt us. Sitting with it, for as long as it takes (a minute or 5) the energy eventually dissipates; leaving you free.

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    1. I think I agree to. For me, sometimes part of my process is to actually write about it, it makes it more real for me sometimes or less hard to ignore – and then feel what I am feeling, it’s there for a reason right? and I don’t have to stay with it too long, just long enough.
      Peace, Harlon

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    1. I agree, this emotion, this feeling is part of a spectrum, the beginning of something, the midst of something, the passing of something. Thank you for your comment. It helps. 🙂 Harlon

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  9. Change of scenery here I come. Sometimes I just need to take stock of where I am, and be real with it, then I can move on in a way that is genuine. Thanks Brad, you’re the best. Hugs, Harlon

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